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Certainty Anchors - what are yours?

Certainty Anchors - what are yours?

I discovered that in a book called “Uncertainty,” Jonathan Fields speaks about the power of rituals and habits that occur at specific intervals during the day in order to help us live more creative lives.

“The simple physical act of engaging in ritual and routine serves as a certainty anchor...

…A certainty anchor is a practice or process that adds something known and reliable to your life when you may otherwise feel you’re spinning off in a million different directions.

Rituals and routines can function as certainty anchors by offering a sense of connection with the divine or with a like-minded community.”

What are yours?

Monthly, I meet my coach.

Weekly, I update my accountability buddies.

Daily, my 5 daily prayers (“salah” or “solat”). Within them my favourite posture is the prostration (“sujood”).

Prostrating in utter humility, my heart is at a higher level than my head, so I literally FEEL the gush of blood to my brain.

I believe that when I prostrate (total of 34 times in the 5 times a day) my brain receives more nourishment, which has a good effect upon memory, vision, hearing, concentration, psyche and all other cognitive abilities.

Again, what are your certainty anchors, be they daily or other frequencies in the month?

Benefits of certainty anchors include the following.

✔️ Reduced anxiety: Certainty anchors can provide a sense of stability and security in uncertain times, helping to reduce anxiety and stress.

✔️ Enhanced decision-making: Having a few key certainties in life can make decision-making easier, as you can base choices on your core values and beliefs.

✔️ Increased resilience: Certainty anchors can help you bounce back from setbacks and adapt to changing circumstances, as they provide a foundation of stability.

✔️ Improved focus and productivity: Knowing your certainty anchors can help you prioritize and concentrate on what truly matters to you.

✔️ Greater well-being: Having a sense of certainty can contribute to overall well-being and a more positive outlook on life.

Jonathan Fields’ approach encourages individuals to identify and cultivate their own certainty anchors to navigate the uncertainties of life effectively.

 

Related posts:

• Sacred Monotony - routines aren’t so boring after all!
• Soliloquy - updating my accountability buddies

 

There are lots of literature that describe the benefits of prostration (“sujood” or “sajdah”). Here is one:

Amazing Benefits of Prostration in Islam and new science on “Earthing”

 

 

Accountability Coaching - I be your "body double"!

With or without ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder), Accountability Coaching outcomes are:

• Increased focus and motivation while working on tasks
• Sense of structure and routine
• Sense of support and companionship
• Reduced feelings of self-doubt
• Tasks seem less daunting
• Increased productivity to achieve goals
  
  

Image: Co-Working Space (virtual) - my view

As your Accountability Coach, I keep you accountable on your planned tasks daily and help you handle unplanned demands of the day and week.

This is also called body doubling. I become your body double.

• You and I have a weekly check-in video meeting for 30 minutes on a fixed day at a fixed time
• In the weekly check-in, you update me on achievements of the past week and declare to me the plan for the following week
• You keep updating me daily through messaging, on the progress of you doing your tasks
• I coach, mentor, encourage and challenge you when I interact with you
• You and I be in the same co-working space, virtually
• All the above are done within one integrated app available on mobile, laptop and desktop

Email me at: [email protected] 
Call/message me at: +6012 200 3251
Book my time directly in my calendar:

Related information: Learning Experiences 

 

Referral Friends Program

Referral Friends Program

 

Who do you know who can benefit from my services?

 

Would you like to be my RFF?

RFF? “Referral Friends Forever”! 😃 What do I mean? See below, especially on “for life.” 😊

 

I am happy to invite you to be my Referral Friend in my Referral Friends Program.

 

The services from me

The

The services for this Referral Friends Program are:

1. CEO Coaching
2. Executive Coaching
3. Team Coaching
4. Group Coaching

These cover the client's business and professional goals, and also personal goals.

With clients who are Muslims, I especially work with them on enlivening Islamic values. 

I am open to discuss with you any other professional services that you think I may be able to do for clients, either directly from me to the clients, or in collaboration with you.

 

Ideal Client

 

The clients who get most benefit from me are ideally senior leaders, e.g. CEOs who are open to further self-development.

 

Also, Muslim senior leaders will benefit from my coaching that reinforces their spiritual path, enhancing their professional and personal life. 

 

With non-Muslim clients, similarly they receive benefit of reinforcement of universal values that I may not necessarily use Islamic terminology.

 

Process of referral

 

Please think of names of people and organisations who may benefit from me, then you explore with them the benefit of my service to them.

 

After that, please introduce me to them, preferably in a conversation of you, them and I, otherwise through messaging or other means.

 

I will then further have a conversation directly with them for me to enrol them into a coaching or related contract.

 

Token to you

 

When you refer a prospect to me, and the prospect becomes a client of mine/Rubah Associates’, I will pay you a token of 15% (fifteen percent) of the fee the client pays me/Rubah Associates. 

 

The payment to you will be back-to-back with the payment client makes to me, i.e. within 7 days after client pays me. Normally my clients pay session by session, ahead of each session.

 

This token is for life. 

- For the life of the first contract the client has with me

- and for any other subsequent contracts I get with the client.

- For the life of me, 

- for the life of Rubah Associates

- and for the life of yourself. 

 

May Allah grant us and our endeavors long life. Aamiin.

 

Referral Friend Reports

 

Once every 6 months, or sooner if possible, I will send you a simple report of the status of the Referral Friend relationship between you and I, i.e. the prospects you have referred to me, the progress of my relationship with them and any other relevant information.

 

Information about me

 

My landing page: https://coachhasan.com

This website: https://www.rubah.my

 

My LinkedIn profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hasansaidin

 

How to become my Referral Friend Forever (RFF)

Simply write to me by messaging to my phone at +6012 200 3251  or emailing me at [email protected], with words to the effect of “Accepted” or “Agreed,” referencing this webpage.

 

Questions?

Ask me anything on this.

 

Email me at: [email protected] 
Call/message me at: +6012 200 3251
Book my time directly in my calendar:

 

 

Sacred Monotony

Image credit: The Minds Journal

So boring! So monotonous!!!
- What if it’s “sacred monotony”? 🤔

In a previous post,

I said that rather than lamenting on what could be felt as doing a meaningless task (e.g. a work “process” step),

connecting it to a higher purpose reframes our feeling to that of gratitude.

Do we feel that day in, day out
we are in a “same old same old” routine and monotony?

What if we treat the monotony as “sacred monotony”?

Sacred monotony becomes skillful monotony and fulfilling monotony,
like in the above example of “meaningless task”
when we can:
✔️ check it against a higher purpose.

If not the highest purpose each time,
then the cascaded lower sub-purpose(s).

Sacred monotony is when we enter any task
with intention (a.k.a. niat, niyyah, nawaitu),
versus mindless, automatic drifting.

Archers, violinists or other achievers
who repeat and practise hours on end
for months or years on end
do not complain of boring routine!

We perform religious rituals with sacred monotony
(except if we approach them in automatic mode).

Try this:
- remembrance of deep intention, and
- mindfulness (being fully present every moment in every task) for all daily activities,

be they for religious rituals or mundane work and life routines.

An alternative is: escape from boredom

through falling for distractions,
bingeing on entertainment,
and other heedless forms,

but beware - where are we really heading to?

Have a blessed Friday,
have a good weekend,
(even with monotony)!

No Whining = Gratitude

Video: my conversation with Nadiah Suki on her accepting “process” for a greater good, and how her not whining about it is actually her practising gratitude.

Here is the reason I was so emphatic on “no complaining” when I had that conversation with Nadiah Suki: I recently completed a “no complaining” endurance in my recent 35-day Hajj trip! 😊

Prior to the Hajj trip, the teacher at my Hajj course had said that this is a journey of the heart.

The Sheikh taught me that with the 2 million plus people in Makkah, I should take heed of these (also see Appendix 2 further below):

• not a vacation
• no arguments
• no complaining
• expect uncomfortable
• expect delays
• people’s tests are different
• not there to propose solutions to Hajj problems

The above apply before, during and after Hajj.

Before and during the trip, I prayed that my ears don’t hear and my eyes don’t see people complaining, arguing or proposing solutions. I also intended to avoid those kind of people.

Sure enough, there were some tests of those kind of people. Still, Allah did spare me from many, I am sure.

As an example at Kuala Lumpur International Airport when we were waiting to board the plane to Jeddah, my wife Marsila beside me suddenly said, “Oops, my bad, I shouldn’t have said that.” Truth was I really didn’t hear anything she said before that.

And as we were about to board the plane, a fellow pilgrim said to me, “Ada satu kecacatan (There is one defect)..” referring to the start of our journey, but at that time we were standing up to get on the bus to board the plane, so he could not finish his sentence.

In the first couple of days in Makkah, the tests of noticing people’s whining did continue. The travel package I bought had me share the hotel room with 3 other pilgrims, so they become new friends. To one of them I confided, in tears, that I was trying my best not to complain, not to add fuel to the fire of other people complaining, and not to be in the company of complainers.

Why? Because I am a guest of Allah and as a guest, I do not want to kecilkan hati (displease) my Host, Allah Himself!

This concept of not kecilkan hati Tuan Rumah (Host) was reminded to me before the trip by my friend, an earlier Hajah, Farah Rahim.

I texted Farah from Makkah that I was just keeping quiet when people complain. Farah suggested I smile while in the company of complainers, and I would be rewarded. So I did try to smile a lot throughout the pilgrimage. 😊

The pilgrimage was meant to be arduous, at different levels for different people. The congestion in the main mosque of Masjid Haram when we did the Tawaf and Sa’ie rituals as well as the daily prayers, the 40 degrees Celcius plus HEAT (!), the delays, the crammed camps in Arafah and Mina, the ratio of 60:1 people to toilet in the camps, the list goes on.

I think I was patient enough with the tests, Alhamdulillah, including when I smiled at supposedly intelligent suggestions people raised about the toilet situation, the meals menu prepared by the travel agency, etc., etc.

I decided to adapt to the new routines and travel situations (after all, I am a seasoned world traveler), and count the relative blessings I had.

Especially when another roommate said, “Allah loves you, Hasan - He gives you “corner lot” each time!” My roommate was referring to the positioning of my beds in Makkah, Arafah and Mina.

I was first to arrive at the hotel room in Makkah, thus I could choose the bed by the window.

In the Arafah camp, somehow I got the end bed (very narrow sofa bed/mattress - side-by-side literally touching the next one) by the wall, giving a bit of space to put my stuff between bed and wall.

In the Mina camp, my narrow bed (same cramming like in Arafah) was by the doorway of the room, giving “breathing space” to the next bed on the other side of the doorway.

(Read on, below)

 

Eid Mubarak. Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Fitri.

Eid Mubarak. Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Fitri. Maaf Zahir Batin.

 

Soliloquy

“What the heck is a soliloquy? 😄😄😄 Ohhhh….cakap sorang-sorang.”

Today I spoke by myself, then sent the 4 minutes 20 seconds recording to the other two members of our Accountability Triad.

What the heck is an Accountability Triad?

Three members accountable to own selves and accountable to each other.

Every Friday from 8am to 8:30am we get on a Zoom call and update on each of our previous week’s declarations then declare our new goals for the coming week.

Three members. Triangle. Prism. Get it? Hopefully the light that gets in refracts out as colours of the rainbow.

(I also still have the vinyl for Pink Floyd’s The Dark Side Of The Moon album.)

This week when the other two members were not available, I decided to keep the momentum with a soliloquy, and it doesn’t matter to me if they don’t replay it.

Two of us started this in May 2022 as a dyad. It became a triad about a month later. May it go on and on, because we love it.

I had agreed to this idea from the other member because I was partly inspired by Marshall Goldsmith’s “6 Daily Questions.”

We do whatever works for us! 😁

 

Conversation with Evonne Chin on Malaysia PeersOnDemand

10th March 2023
Duration: 25 minutes 13 seconds

Where Everybody Knows Your Name

It suddenly struck me, and Evonne Chin agreed that the Malaysia PeersOnDemand community is like the community that is Cheers, where everybody knows your name!

Evonne also unraveled an inherent part of me I didn’t realize, that I seek and create togetherness.

Interview by Malar on Peers On Demand

 

 

Malar Villi Supramaniam interviewed me in one of the episodes of her “Malar In Conversation” - “Being Whole, Being Me” series.

The conversation went deep into my journey of Malaysia PeersOnDemand and my vision for the online community.

Date recorded: 15th February 2023
Date aired: 24th February 2023

Duration: 1 hour 8 minutes 29 seconds  

 

EXCERPTS (7 excerpts in total)

Excerpt 1
“It wasn’t just a copy-and-paste”

Duration: 4 minutes 44 seconds

“It wasn’t just a copy-and-paste”
- why and how Malaysia Peers On Demand started in 2021

I’ve always valued other people’s ideas, and thought others would also benefit from each other.

I had been running Mastermind groups (still am) and also a CEO group, then discovered and succeeded in having professionals come to one-hour meetups!

 

Excerpt 2
Networking? What networking?

Duration: 4 minutes 15 seconds

Networking? What networking?
- Why people come (and come back) to the meetups

People to sell to? People to work with?

How about inspiration, ideas and human connections?

 

Brief with Dennis Foo, Managing Director, Pu Xin ASPIRA Advisory

 

Impact or Impair?
- Our brief interview featuring “Malaysia PeersOnDemand” Member, Dennis FOO 符史坚, Managing Director of Pu Xin ASPIRA Co. Ltd., Shanghai.

Dennis is a Business Coach.

Among the many questions he often asks his clients is whether they positively IMPACT or otherwise (negatively) IMPAIR their business.

Interview duration: 12 minutes 43 seconds
Interview date: 7th February 2023

See this and our other brief interviews at: https://www.rubah.my/briefs.html

Request to be interviewed by me after participating in our free weekly events called Malaysia PeersOnDemand. See our events at: https://www.rubah.my/events.html

Or become an official Member our online community. See: https://PeersOnDemand.my